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One aspect of my non-professional, personal life can be described here. You may have heard about an offering of free in-home caregiving and are looking for more information.

 

To further deepen my spiritual practice to organize life around reciprocity and care rather than the accumulation of wealth, in 2021 I made a commitment to live in the home of individuals who needed assistance to live independently. Examples include elders who were widowed or divorced, whose children lived too far away or were too busy to tend to the little things that needed daily intermittent attention (meds, meals, housework), but the elder did not want to move into assisted living. Later, other possibilities arose like a single parent trying to juggle care for children, home, work, and friendships or a young adult trying to launch and live independently for the first time.

 

In late December, 2022, I started at the first location. I was asked to assist a man, never married, no children, in his 70’s, with Parkinson’s, who wanted to continue to live at home. I stayed with him for fourteen months. At the second location I helped a daughter to care for her mother with dementia. I stayed with them almost three months. The third location begins in late May, 2024.

 

As with all of my relationships, we come together as equals. Without wages, rent, or utilties, we are not care provider/patient, tenant/landlord, or employer/employee. We work together cooperatively for your benefit as long as it serves you well. I supplement your abilities with my strengths. I am able-bodied, financially independent, responsible, disciplined, tender, and kind. My daily routines involve reading, writing, and taking care of the spaces and beings around me. I work from home and go out (hikes, dance, cafe) only occasionally. I am not married nor do I have children. I do have two cats who go with me and they have to be accounted for. Dogs and allergies can limit the opportunities. If the cats and I are in a separate space (mother-in-law suite, apartment next door, studio over the garage) opportunities increase. Screened porches and windows for fresh air, sunshine, and bird watching are cherished.

 

The therapy practice is also something to consider. During the workday, I'm present in case of emergencies, but generally unavailable. From 8:00 am until 4:30 pm (occasionally 6:00 pm) Monday through Friday, I am occupied with my practice. It provides the income which allows this to be a free offer. The therapy practice needs high-quality internet service and a quiet, uninterrupted, private space to meet with my clients by video.

 

If you feel this might be helpful in the future for you or someone you love, please let me know. Transitions can come up unexpectedly and if I know of your interest ahead of time, I will contact you when the next transition occurs. (At the time of the next transition, I may add a fourth option: home owners with a mortgage who earn less than the median income where a monthly financial contribution, as a percentage of my surplus income, to pay down the debt would be most helpful.)

Testimonial

I manage care for my good friend Archie who has Parkinson's Disease, and we were lucky enough to have Rob on our team.

 

Archie is over 70 and completely healthy except for Parkinson's. He is unable to take meds or prepare any food on his own and has very limited mobility. While we did have other caregivers at various times, Rob acted as the house manager. I live 45 minutes away from my Archie, so having warm and loving Rob in the house meant that I always had eyes and ears in the house.

Rob started his day checking in on Archie, ensuring he had his morning meds and anything else. He checked in on him at lunchtime, then made healthy and delicious dinners for Archie most days, unless Archie had friends visiting. Rob did a lot of the shopping, and if the house needed service, he called the HVAC guy, the plumber, the electrician, or the roof guy.

 

I usually visited Archie 1-2 times a week to pay bills and go through mail. Rob was my triage guy, passing on caregiver feedback or noting Archie's care needs. And in an emergency, can you imagine anyone else you’d rather have on-site to assess and act? Best of all, Rob made Archie’s house feel clean, open, and inviting to all who visited. We all mourned the end of that era as Archie began to need 24/7 care. I am happy to talk to anyone about Rob’s offering and how he could help their family. 

In-Home Caregiving

Symbiotic Living: A Free Exchange

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